Erotic Recalibration with Katrina

I once heard someone say, “Living things grow, and growth is change.” I loved that philosophy. It gave me a sense of ease around uncertainty and taught me to look for the lesson in change.

Then I learned something harder:

Sometimes change is loss.

Finding the growth inside that loss has been one of the most painful, frightening, and devastating lessons of my life.

I'm not a big fan of the “I used to have it all…” story, particularly when it turns into inspo-porn. That's not what I'm trying to do here. I want to tell the truth about my own journey—from wild erotic athlete, to largely bed-bound and disabled, to discovering that while some things cannot be recovered, that doesn't mean the story is over.

For more than a decade, I taught Sex Ed, nude yoga, vaginal weightlifting, and Tantric practices. I ran a circus entertainment company and performed sideshow, burlesque, acrobatics, stilt-walking, and other feats of strength and dexterity.

I had built a sexuality around a body that could do things. I was proud of my athletic, Kama Sutra-informed abilities in the bedroom. After the birth of my second child, I bounced back quickly—or so I thought.

I didn't know there was a time bomb ticking away inside me.

Over the next few years, I pushed through increasing fatigue, aches and pains, recurring back injuries, and a growing list of things my body simply wasn't doing the way it used to. I chalked much of it up to motherhood, stress, and the general chaos of life.

Then, in the fall of 2020, pelvic pain that had been gradually worsening became so severe I was sent to the hospital for possible appendicitis.

It wasn't appendicitis.

After months of escalating pain, multiple ER visits, and spending most of six months lying flat on my back, I was finally diagnosed with Pelvic Congestion Syndrome. By this time, I was completely bed-bound, unable to remain upright for more than about 90 minutes, and relying on daily opioid pain medication.

A simple surgery helped enormously with the pain, but my body was profoundly de-conditioned. Then, a slew of other hospitalizations and diagnoses came rolling in over the next few months: Fibromyalgia, CFS/ME, Functional Neurological Disorder.

I lost and regained speech.

I lost and regained my ability to walk.

I had to learn how to live in my body again.

And that included learning how to enjoy sex.

How to experience pleasure.

How to be kinky.

How to move.

How to play.

How to inhabit my body erotically when that body could no longer do many of the things I'd once taken for granted.

There was grief in that process. There was anger. There was experimentation. There were things I had to let go of.

And there were things I discovered that I never would have found if my body hadn't forced me to slow down.

I learned that sexuality doesn't have to be built around athleticism.

It doesn't have to be built around penetration.

It doesn't have to be built around endurance, performance, or even orgasm.

And kink doesn't have to disappear when your physical abilities change, either. 

Sometimes the dynamic has to shift. Sometimes the tools change, or the way you use them gets modified. Sometimes the entire scene looks different.

The erotic self can adapt.

That's what I mean by Erotic Recalibration.

It's not about getting your old body back.

It's not about pretending that illness, disability, aging, pregnancy, menopause, injury, surgery, or other changes haven't taken something from you.

Not all journeys are “there and back again.” (Yes, I am a LOTR nerd. You should see my Red Book of Westmarch replica journal.) Sometimes you don't get to return to the Shire. But that doesn't mean your erotic life has to be left in the fires of Mount Doom.

And it's definitely not about forcing yourself to be grateful for what remains.

It's about getting curious about the body you have now.

What feels good now?

What creates desire now?

What does this body need in order to feel safe, comfortable, accessible, and sexy?

What kinds of pleasure are still available—and what new possibilities might exist that you haven't explored yet?

I didn't choose the body changes that brought me here.

But I did learn how to build an erotic life around them.

And that's what I want to help you do, too.

Erotic Recalibration is an 8-week, personalized sexuality coaching experience for people whose bodies, circumstances, or relationship with sexuality have changed.

Together, we'll explore what's different, what still feels good, what your body needs now, and what new possibilities are available to you.

In Erotic Recalibration we explore: 

What is your erotic body capable of now, what does it crave, and how can you build a satisfying sexuality around that reality?

• Perimenopause & menopause
• Chronic illness & fatigue
• Disability or changing mobility
• Aging
• Pregnancy & postpartum changes
• Recovery from injury or surgery
• Changes in medication or treatment
• Changes in desire, arousal, sensation, or orgasm
• Changes in your relationship with your body or sexual identity

You don't need a diagnosis to belong here.

Sometimes you simply know that your sexuality doesn't work the way it used to.

 Your sexuality doesn't have to become less adventurous because your body has changed.

Erotic Recalibration is kink-informed and kink-affirming, while remaining completely kink-optional.

For some clients, recalibration may mean adapting a favorite position or finding new ways to experience orgasm.

For others, it may mean exploring power exchange, sensation play, toys, restraint, service, fantasy, or entirely new ways of experiencing erotic connection.

 8-Week Erotic Recalibration - starting at $1500

• 8 × 75-minute virtual coaching sessions
• comprehensive intake
• personalized Erotic Recalibration Map™
• weekly erotic experiments
• educational resources
• final integration session

Not sure whether the full experience is right for you? Start with a 90-minute Recalibration Session — $200.

Session fee applied to full package enrollment with-in 7 days